Finding "Miss Right".
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For many, finding miss right will be the most difficult task they will ever undertake in their lives.
So how do you go about finding your miss right? Well this is a tough one but I will let you in on my secrets! I may be a bit rusty, as the last time I looked at a woman in any way other than a friend was over a decade ago, but I will do my best for you.
Now, lets take one step at a time. Please bear in mind this is from the point of view of a man and any woman reading this and doesn't agree, I would be very happy to hear from you.
When a man first notices a woman, the first thing we will probably think of, is what would she be like in bed. Women however, don't share our way of thinking. (Well at least the majority :) When a Woman notices a man the things that will cross her mind are; does he have a job? Can he take care of himself and me physically, emotionally and financially?
As you see, these are things us men would probably never consider when first noticing a woman. They are just not that important to us as physical appearance is. Men look whereas women inspect. Women will subject a man to a 10 point test before they even consider approaching him or allow him to approach them. They will look at your eyes, hands, teeth, clothes, the way you walk, the way you talk, your smile, class and anything else you can think of. Once you get over the first hurdle and test, you will then be subjected to a second inspection, which will involve whether you are honest, outgoing, have confidence, style, intelligence and a sense of humour. Now I am not saying if you don't posses all these qualities you are a lost cause and should go and hang yourself. Remember no one is perfect but all these are qualities you can work on improving if you don't posses them already. Just a few of these qualities will suffice in most situations unless you are after "miss perfect" rather than "miss right" in which case she will most likely not be worth it anyway.
So lets move on to the second step. Once you have groomed yourself, got yourself a decent wardrobe and learnt a few jokes you must work on building up your confidence. The biggest mistake men do when they see an attractive woman they want to approach, is think if she would like them or not. This is a big mistake as you are starting out as the underdog. Always take the approach, "will I like her once I meet her?" "Is she good enough for me?" Never underestimate yourself.
Once you get yourself in that state of thinking you can approach any woman you want. Remember, beautiful women are human too and do share similar uncertainties and do have their own flaws.
I am sure you have seen many beautiful women being with the most unattractive men and wondered to yourself, "what on earth is she doing with him!?" Well, the answer is very simple; those men had the confidence to approach them. (or have a lot of money!)
I am not sure how many of you have seen "How to lose a guy in 10 days?" Well, if you haven't seen it, go and see it. Not only is it a great film but also demonstrates the kind of confidence you need to have. You must believe you can make any woman fall for you. Once you have the confidence then you really can make any woman fall for you. However, you must always remember the golden rule. NEVER go after something that is already taken. It could lead to both emotional and physical damage!
Now, moving on to how to approach a woman. Eye contact is the key. Eyes speak a thousand words, so use your eyes effectively. Always look at a woman you are interested in directly in the eyes. Remember, look and not stare, as you don't want to come across as some sort of psycho! Eye contact will let her know your interest in her and will let you know whether or not she is interested in you.
A good thing to bear in mind is that women are very intuitive and can tell if you have cheating eyes, lying eyes, dishonest eyes, wandering eyes, or sincere eyes. They can also tell whether or not you are desperate or confident simply by the way you look at them. Sometimes however, women can interpret wrong, so personally nowadays, I tend to avoid eye contact altogether with women so as to avoid getting myself into any hot water!
Once you have established eye contact, smile. A nice smile is very important and can show you are charming, friendly and expressive.
Once you have perfected the above, you should now be on your way to meet miss right. Naturally, after the foreplay comes the climax. What's the climax you ask? Well, the climax is approaching her, introducing yourself and start talking. The initial approach after the eye contact and smile is very important. Avoid any cheesy chat up lines. Best be honest that you saw her from across the room, that you think she is lovely and would just like to introduce yourself. The conversation should then naturally take off by itself. The things she will remember will be your initial approach, your choice of clothes, if you behaved like a gentleman and whether or not you put a smile on her face. Always, remember woman don't like men who talk about themselves too much, so keep the "me" "me" "me" out.
I actually met my miss right in a night club over 12 years ago. She was the most beautiful girl I had ever seen, and just happened to be sitting next to me when I decided to have a cigarette. I turned to her and asked her if she smokes, as any gentleman would do. She said no thank you, I said good for you, introduced myself and let her know how beautiful she was. A month later we bumped into each other again and the rest is history. So you see it doesn't have to be complicated. Keep it sweet and simple. I am no Brad Pitt, but have managed to be with the most beautiful woman simply because I found the confidence to introduce myself.
Always remember, it is very important to avoid drinking too much. Save your drinking for when you are with friends for a fun night out and not interested in finding miss right. Chances are you will only end up making a fool of yourself or even if you do achieve anything, will most likely not remember it the next day. No woman I know has ever fallen for a drunk!
Well, you should now be ready to start your journey in finding your miss right, and if you don't succeed at first, try, try and try again. You will eventually find your miss right.
Good Luck!
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